Starting daycare is a big step, both for your child and for you. By planning ahead, gently preparing for the separation, and building a genuine relationship with the team, everything becomes easier. This big step usually takes place when your baby is around 3 months old.
Register early... really early
Ideally, you should register for daycare during the first month of pregnancy. As places are scarce, some families may have to wait a few months longer than the baby's first three months or find alternative childcare even if they apply early. While waiting for a response, have a plan B ready: a private micro-nursery, a childminder, childcare by a grandparent, or parental leave. Planning ahead gives you peace of mind.
Have a backup plan... for your backup plan
Even with a place, unexpected events can occur. Childhood illnesses are common, and a contagious child cannot be accepted. It is therefore best to have a backup plan: "sick child" leave, a relative who is available, a temporary nanny, etc. Good to know: chickenpox does not always require exclusion; as soon as the spots are dry and no longer itchy, the child can usually return to daycare if they feel comfortable doing so.
Talking about daycare, even if your baby is very young
Introducing the daycare center ahead of time helps prepare your child. Explain it simply: you go to work, they play with other children, and you always come back to pick them up. A reassuring tone is just as important as the words you use.
Adaptation, a real mini-program
The adjustment period is essential and generally lasts one to two weeks, progressing in stages:
| Day | Program |
|---|---|
| 1 | You stay with your child for 1–2 hours, explore the premises, and meet the contact person. |
| 2 | You participate in the meal, still without separation. |
| 3 | First short separation: your child stays with their caregiver for about an hour. |
| 4 | A few hours on your own (meals, a quick nap)—enough to let you catch your breath! |
| 5 | A short full day, with a later arrival and earlier departure. |
| 6 | A typical day, during normal working hours. |
Ideally, this adjustment should take place before returning to work. Whenever possible, share it between both parents: involvement, visibility, and peace of mind for everyone.
And when there are tears... that's normal.
Crying at the time of separation is common: it is a normal reaction to a new environment. Three useful reflexes:
- Explain clearly what is going to happen.
- Avoid prolonging the departure: a kiss, a goodbye, and you're off.
- Never slip away quietly: for his emotional security, he needs to know that you are leaving... and that you will be coming back.
Building trust with the team
The relationship with professionals is based on trust. Share your habits, specific needs, and any concerns you may have: the team can adapt and offer concrete solutions. The more fluid the communication, the smoother the transition.
The transmission logbook: a true ally
Every day, the notebook records meals, naps, diaper changes, activities, and mood. Take a few moments in the evening to read it and discuss it. In the morning, a note about the previous night or the child's condition that day helps the team adjust the day accordingly.